Maternal narcissism is where a mother is so caught up in her own stuff, her parenting lacks empathy or care for the emotional needs of her children. Whilst emotionally neglecting, she may meet your other physical needs. It’s important to be aware that this narcissism and lack of parental care exists on a scale, from the mild to the emotionally and physically abusive. Mothers may act this way due to mental health issues, Mother Wounds of their own, bereavement and lack of support.
Support and emotional care received through women gathering together, is often overlooked, especially in an age where we rarely have enough time for our homes, careers, children and partners.
Many people’s first point of call is a GP or wellbeing centre, however a LOT of people I see, struggle with long waiting times, not being able to access more than 6-8 sessions, seeing different people during the assessment process, so they have to tell people their story over and over again, not being offered the therapy they want, and most importantly not being able to choose their therapist.
We know that some medications can cause depressive or anxious symptoms in patients, many of them have depression listed as a side-effect on the leaflet you get with your medication. There are anecdotally many women who choose alternative forms of contraception due to mood changes and depression, but this is the first time a study has validated their experiences.
Negative feelings like sadness, depression, loneliness, trauma, hurt, anger and loss are useful and essential emotions. They tell us that something is wrong and it needs to be changed, or worked through. Loss of a loved one for instance cannot be changed but it can be worked through with the process of mourning.