Choosing A Private Counsellor

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Ever felt worried, down, stressed, sad or scared? We all experience these emotions from time to time, and they usually pass and we move on. Sometimes though when you find yourself in a difficult situation such as divorce, losing a loved one, relationship difficulties, when you are facing depression, and/or anxiety, or are stressed with problems at work or with your children, the feelings don’t pass so easily and you begin to feel stuck. At times like these it can be helpful to to talk to a qualified, professional. So where should you go for help?

Many people’s first point of call is a GP or wellbeing centre, however a LOT of people I see, struggle with long waiting times, not being able to access more than 6-8 sessions, seeing different people during the assessment process, so they have to tell people their story over and over again, not being offered the therapy they want, and most importantly not being able to choose their therapist.

The impact this has, is that many people say therapy doesn’t work for them and their bad experience then stops them from seeking further help. So what’s the alternative?

As someone who has no vested interest in a particular outcome, a private counsellor can provide a non-judgemental, unbiased, listening ear. Exploring with you what has happened, why that might be and how it feels for you to experience that situation, and what might be the best way for you to move forward.

Unlike in the NHS or an EAP (employee assistance program) you will be seen by one person, who assesses and then treats you. In the case of EAPs there is no reporting back to your HR (human resources) department or boss, ensuring greater confidentiality. There are no waiting times and you can have sessions for as long as you need. When looking for a therapist you can choose one who offers the kind of therapy you are looking for such as CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), counselling or psychotherapy. Most importantly you can choose to work with someone you feel you get on with and have a good rapport with.

The reason many counsellors, like myself offer a FREE initial appointment, is because we know that the biggest predictor for how well YOU do in therapy is based on how well you get on with your therapist. I’ll say it again: If you have a good rapport with your therapist, your counselling will have a better outcome, regardless of the type of therapy you choose to have.

So it’s worth you meeting and talking with a few counsellors to see who you would like to work with. A good therapist will be on a voluntary register either with the BACP (British association for counselling and psychotherapy) or NCS (national counselling society), have a discosure and barring service (DBS) check, and have insurance.

So if you’d like to see if we can work together click the link below and get in touch, or if you’d like to find out more about how I work, please sign up for my fortnightly bulletin.

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Published by The Meditative Counsellor

As a fellow survivor and qualified registered therapist, I help women with difficult mothers feel better about themselves by providing a safe space for them to heal from their trauma and pain. My blog is dedicated to my thoughts, experiences and work in helping women to heal from their mother wounds and assisting women to find healthy support networks. I strongly believe that I have a duty to share my knowledge to empower women like you, to improve your mental health and wellbeing through holding a safe space for you to heal, providing therapy to hear you, so you can understand yourself, and education to give you the tools to empower yourself. If you would like to work with me do get in touch via the contact page or at

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